Our Mother Daughter ConnectionThe mother daughter connection is as unique as each snowflake that floats gracefully down from the sky; though some relationships may seem alike, no two actually are.
"A woman is the full circle; Diane Mariechild Every mother is a daughter. Mother daughter relationships go through different stages as we go through out lives. This includes our experiences with preceding generations. As such, lessons and skills are handed down that help shape every mother prior to her giving birth to her daughter(s).As daughters, we experience the reciprocal end of mothering. Good mothers and grandmothers teach us lessons and skills that will help us to survive on our own once we leave home. As mothers, we start off as the teachers, like all mothers and grandmothers before us. As moms we know what worked with our own mother daughter relationship and what didn't. We form a plan to make the world a better place for these young females in our charge and hope that we will be successful in raising them with less baggage than we may have had, more tools for self-sufficiency, and more freedoms than may have been available in our eras.Grandmothers provide a generational perspective, a rich history and a sense of heritage that help granddaughters better understand where they came from, how their own mothers were raised, and respect for the wisdoms shared.Many mothers are also grandmothers as well. And today we are experiencing a cross-generational phenomenon where many mothers in their 40s are also grandmothers and part of the baby boomer era (those born between 1942 and 1963) which lends itself to a whole new list of considerations and concerns and muddies the generation gap a bit as we are forced to deal with new issues regarding health care, retirement and aging of dual generations.If you are here reading this page right now, no matter your age or place in the mother daughter connection, you have come perhaps to find comfort, camaraderie or information to grow yourself or your relationship with the women in your family. Welcome and know you are not alone.Empower INDEPENDENCE. Good mothers of any walk or generation have compassion and a strong desire to enhance their legacies by equipping their daughters with a solid foundation of mental prowess, ethical behavior and the courage of conviction to help transition young girls to young women from followers to leaders by example; from codependence to independence; and from dreamers to believers in themselves and their ability to positively change the world.While being the authority figures, the wise and seasoned, we are also developing friendships with our girls unlike any other. We embrace the learning experience and try to include our daughter(s) in what we are learning so that they will have the benefit of forethought or anticipation should the same or similar situation come directly into their lives.This is not just circumstance or happenstance. Rather this means empowering them to create their own futures in positive and productive ways. To reach down behind them and pull others working their way up through life's lessons up with them. To seek to learn always and share what they have learned to help others. To dare to step outside whatever boxes exist for them (societal, mental, physical) and gain a broader perspective of a challenging situation and teach by example.Model COURAGE. While being the authority figures, the wise and seasoned, we are also developing friendships with our girls unlike any other outside of mother-daughter. We embrace the learning experience and try to include our daughter(s) in what we are learning so that they will have the benefit of forethought and planning should the same or similar situation come directly into their lives or to prevent it. "Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage."Anais Nun Demonstrate PERSEVERANCE. Good mothers empower their daughters to create their own futures in positive and productive ways. To reach down behind them and pull others working their way up through life's lessons up with them. To seek to learn always and share what they have learned to help others. To dare to step outside whatever boxes exist for them (societal, mental, physical) and gain a broader perspective of a challenging situation. We walk our talk. We teach by example. We understand the importance of a strong mother daughter connection."If you are tired, keep going; Harriet Tubman More about the Mother Daughter Connection Return to Home Page
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